Getting Through the First Three Months


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Getting Through the First Three Months Soon, we’ll be on our way to the US! I keep in touch regularly with my mother with Skype and FaceTime, but actually being able physically introduce baby to her- it’s exciting! Here’s a look back at the first three months with baby. This post is mainly for myself, to let me know how far I’ve come, because there were times when I just wanted to run away. I’m not exaggerating, either.

June 3, 2017

Baby Bottle Blues – When Your Baby Refuses a Bottle


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Baby Bottle Blues – When Your Baby Refuses a Bottle With a new baby, I’ve always thought that traveling by car would be more convenient. Afterall, if we are in our own vehicle, there would be no way that a crying baby would disturb other passengers. This is Japan, after all, where meiwaku (迷惑、being a nuisance) and kuuki yomenai (空気読めない、being painfully oblivious to one’s surroundings) are the big mustn’ts of society.

May 31, 2017

Changing Diapers in My Closet – Hack My Japanese Home


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Changing Diapers in My Closet – Hack My Japanese Home I “hacked” the closet (押入れ, o-shiire) in our Japanese room (和室, washitsu) and turned it into a diaper command center. Why? I’m short, but I have long legs, and lots of changing tables were too awkward to use. We live in an average sized condo with three rooms, one of which is a Japanese room with tatami flooring. Husband and I have our bedroom, Kokuto has always had his own room, and it was my dream that if we could have kids, the kids and Kokuo would grow up to be roommates. Obviously, the changing table would go in baby’s room, but…

May 28, 2017

Month 3 with Baby – Finally I Can Smile


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Month 3 with Baby – Finally I Can Smile After all I’ve experienced with baby, I really felt a return to normalcy in April. My mother-in-law even during a phone call commented on how cheery my voice was. I didn’t take her comment lightly. I appreciated that she recognized my struggle and helped me in my first month by coming to Tokyo. Of course, everything isn’t perfect, but I am definitely starting to feel like myself, more than before.

May 11, 2017

Scent of My Childhood – Baby and Wisteria at Kameido Tenjin


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Scent of My Childhood – Baby and Wisteria at Kameido Tenjin Hands down, wisteria is my favorite flower simply because it reminds me of my grandmother. In her backyard, there were lots of trees with wisteria vines. When the weather was fine, she’d leave the backdoor open and the smell of wisteria would permeate the house.

May 1, 2017

Month 2 with Baby – I Think I Know What I’m Doing


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Month 2 with Baby – I Think I Know What I’m Doing Baby now weighs 5.2kg and is 55.9cm! It’s surreal that all she drinks is breast milk and still she’s grown so much! Two months in, our daily routine has become stabilized, so much that I don’t need to rely on a clock at times. I always know when it’s 9:30am or 4:30pm because that’s when we go for our walks, and that’s exactly when she becomes fussy. Baby  loves going for her walks in the stroller, and I love being out of the house. It’s spring, the cherry blossoms are beautiful, and the sun feels so good on my […]

April 15, 2017

A Breastfeeding Journey – My Experience in Japan


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A Breastfeeding Journey – My Experience in Japan From my experience, breastfeeding is encouraged here in Japan. Just like natural births are the norm, it’s almost expected that new moms will breastfeed. Back in 2011, I was a graduate student and taught mommy and toddler English classes as a part-time job. the mothers, four of them, routinely fed in the middle of class. The first time a mother fed in class, I was surprised. Not by the sight of seeing a woman breastfeed, but rather at how smoothly it all went. From the way my student was positioned, I had no idea what was going on. I simply thought she […]

April 12, 2017

O-Miya Mairi – Taking Baby to a Shrine


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O-miya mairi (お宮参り) is a performed at a shrine to give thanks for a baby’s first month of life. Depending on the region, a baby will have his or her first shrine visit at around 31 days old (31 days old for boys, 32 days old for girls). However, it is perfectly fine to delay or even celebrate this milestone a few days earlier. After all, you have to consider mom’s condition, the baby’s health, and the weather.

April 8, 2017

Month 1 with Baby – This is Only the Beginning


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Month 1 with Baby – This is Only the Beginning Baby is finally one month old!  I (somehow) survived the first month with her! Though I survived, it was a truthfully stressful February. I know there’s this mother/daughter-in-law don’t get along thing (嫁姑問題 yome-shutome mondai), but I get along fine with mine. She even came to Tokyo for one month to help with chores and to do cooking. But even then, with the extra hands, I was always irritated. Like, I’d go into the cabinet for a cup or something, and everything would be in a different place. Anything my husband said or did just put me over the edge. “Did I […]

April 2, 2017