Month 6 with Baby – Month 6 with Baby – WTF Am I Being Punished? The first week of month 6 with baby coincided with our return to Japan. Since we’ve returned, she’s been in kaiju mode nearly everyday. Maybe it’s the jet-lag or coming back to an extremely humid place, I don’t know.
Month 5 with Baby – I Think I Love My Husband Baby is now five months old! I’m impressed with all the things she can do. Still, I spend nearly every day in shock because I’m used to the newborn stage. Every time she does something new, I think, “Are you advanced or is that just something all babies can do in month 5 of life?” In month 5 I have new perspectives on being a mom. I feel much more positively towards my relationship with my husband. On the other hand, I’m feeling a set of new professional and personal challenges.
Month 4 with Baby – I Think I Hate My Husband May went by easier than the first three months but gave me a new set of challenges, not to mention my first bout with mastitis. The challenges I’m really talking about are my relationship with my husband and myself. There’s an idea that mommy bloggers sometimes are just too personal, too real –selfies with tired eyes and bed head or proudly showing off their nursing positions and expressed milk. Writing too truthfully about their labor experience, postpartum blues/anger, and sex after baby.
Getting Through the First Three Months Soon, we’ll be on our way to the US! I keep in touch regularly with my mother with Skype and FaceTime, but actually being able physically introduce baby to her- it’s exciting! Here’s a look back at the first three months with baby. This post is mainly for myself, to let me know how far I’ve come, because there were times when I just wanted to run away. I’m not exaggerating, either.
Baby Bottle Blues – When Your Baby Refuses a Bottle With a new baby, I’ve always thought that traveling by car would be more convenient. Afterall, if we are in our own vehicle, there would be no way that a crying baby would disturb other passengers. This is Japan, after all, where meiwaku (迷惑、being a nuisance) and kuuki yomenai (空気読めない、being painfully oblivious to one’s surroundings) are the big mustn’ts of society.
Changing Diapers in My Closet – Hack My Japanese Home I “hacked” the closet (押入れ, o-shiire) in our Japanese room (和室, washitsu) and turned it into a diaper command center. Why? I’m short, but I have long legs, and lots of changing tables were too awkward to use. We live in an average sized condo with three rooms, one of which is a Japanese room with tatami flooring. Husband and I have our bedroom, Kokuto has always had his own room, and it was my dream that if we could have kids, the kids and Kokuo would grow up to be roommates. Obviously, the changing table would go in baby’s room, but…
Scent of My Childhood – Baby and Wisteria at Kameido Tenjin Hands down, wisteria is my favorite flower simply because it reminds me of my grandmother. In her backyard, there were lots of trees with wisteria vines. When the weather was fine, she’d leave the backdoor open and the smell of wisteria would permeate the house.
A Breastfeeding Journey – My Experience in Japan From my experience, breastfeeding is encouraged here in Japan. Just like natural births are the norm, it’s almost expected that new moms will breastfeed. Back in 2011, I was a graduate student and taught mommy and toddler English classes as a part-time job. the mothers, four of them, routinely fed in the middle of class. The first time a mother fed in class, I was surprised. Not by the sight of seeing a woman breastfeed, but rather at how smoothly it all went. From the way my student was positioned, I had no idea what was going on. I simply thought she […]
Month 1 with Baby – This is Only the Beginning Baby is finally one month old! I (somehow) survived the first month with her! Though I survived, it was a truthfully stressful February. I know there’s this mother/daughter-in-law don’t get along thing (嫁姑問題 yome-shutome mondai), but I get along fine with mine. She even came to Tokyo for one month to help with chores and to do cooking. But even then, with the extra hands, I was always irritated. Like, I’d go into the cabinet for a cup or something, and everything would be in a different place. Anything my husband said or did just put me over the edge. “Did I […]
Winter Walk With Baby – Slowly Regaining My Sanity My mother-in-law came down to Tokyo a week before my due date to help around the house. She’s not a big fan of dogs, and my husband has an irregular work schedule, so I knew I was still going to have continue to walk Kokuto. But what to do about baby?