Month 6 with Baby – Month 6 with Baby – WTF Am I Being Punished? The first week of month 6 with baby coincided with our return to Japan. Since we’ve returned, she’s been in kaiju mode nearly everyday. Maybe it’s the jet-lag or coming back to an extremely humid place, I don’t know.
Month 5 with Baby – I Think I Love My Husband Baby is now five months old! I’m impressed with all the things she can do. Still, I spend nearly every day in shock because I’m used to the newborn stage. Every time she does something new, I think, “Are you advanced or is that just something all babies can do in month 5 of life?” In month 5 I have new perspectives on being a mom. I feel much more positively towards my relationship with my husband. On the other hand, I’m feeling a set of new professional and personal challenges.
Getting Through the First Three Months Soon, we’ll be on our way to the US! I keep in touch regularly with my mother with Skype and FaceTime, but actually being able physically introduce baby to her- it’s exciting! Here’s a look back at the first three months with baby. This post is mainly for myself, to let me know how far I’ve come, because there were times when I just wanted to run away. I’m not exaggerating, either.
Month 3 with Baby – Finally I Can Smile After all I’ve experienced with baby, I really felt a return to normalcy in April. My mother-in-law even during a phone call commented on how cheery my voice was. I didn’t take her comment lightly. I appreciated that she recognized my struggle and helped me in my first month by coming to Tokyo. Of course, everything isn’t perfect, but I am definitely starting to feel like myself, more than before.
Okuizome – An Elaborate Feast for Baby We recently celebrated o-kuizome (お食い初め), baby’s first meal. It is done in hopes that a baby will have no difficulty in procuring food in his/her lifetime. Back in the day, extended relatives and family friendLibrarys were invited to attend a baby’s o-kuizome. In recent days, it’s done just with parents and grandparents. Some modern families now even conduct o-kuizome as an event just for parents and baby.
Month 2 with Baby – I Think I Know What I’m Doing Baby now weighs 5.2kg and is 55.9cm! It’s surreal that all she drinks is breast milk and still she’s grown so much! Two months in, our daily routine has become stabilized, so much that I don’t need to rely on a clock at times. I always know when it’s 9:30am or 4:30pm because that’s when we go for our walks, and that’s exactly when she becomes fussy. Baby loves going for her walks in the stroller, and I love being out of the house. It’s spring, the cherry blossoms are beautiful, and the sun feels so good on my […]
O-Miya Mairi – Taking Baby to a Shrine O-miya mairi (お宮参り) is a performed at a shrine to give thanks for a baby’s first month of life. When o-miya mairi is done with in-laws and parents, it is customary for the paternal grandmother to hold the new baby, as the mother is believed to be weak after childbirth. My in-laws were unable to return to Tokyo in March; it was simply my husband and I to celebrate this occasion. Once again, we headed to Kameido Tenjin, but this time with baby in tow.
O-Shichiya & Meimei-shiki – Japanese Baby Naming Tradition In Japan, a Register of Birth (出生届, shussei todoke) must be submitted by the time a baby is 14 days old. By this time, a baby’s name must be decided. Before the Register of Birth is submitted and a baby’s name formally registered at a municipal office, it is tradition in Japan to have a naming ceremony, meimei-shiki, (命名式) during o-shichiya (お七夜), a baby’s 7th night of life.
Month 1 with Baby – This is Only the Beginning Baby is finally one month old! I (somehow) survived the first month with her! Though I survived, it was a truthfully stressful February. I know there’s this mother/daughter-in-law don’t get along thing (嫁姑問題 yome-shutome mondai), but I get along fine with mine. She even came to Tokyo for one month to help with chores and to do cooking. But even then, with the extra hands, I was always irritated. Like, I’d go into the cabinet for a cup or something, and everything would be in a different place. Anything my husband said or did just put me over the edge. “Did I […]